Friday, August 6, 2010

The timing of life

If you really stop to think about it, timing and judgement are almost the two most important things that run our daily lives. If you are driving and you stop too short, not noticing the car in front of you, next thing you know you have rear-ended the car in front of you. It was all about timing, you did not press the brakes in enough time to avoid hitting that car. I guess it could be considered more a case of poor judgement. (Why were you not paying attention while driving?) But you get my point. And no, I did not have a fender bender. Thank God. I have had enough of those in my life to last a lifetime.

We have recently had some timing/judgement issues work in our favor and others that have not.

With the best information that we had available to us, we said goodbye to Chris, as he left for a work trip that was supposed to last for 3 weeks. It was a casual goodbye. Michael was only half-awake in his car seat because he fell asleep on the car ride to drop Daddy off at his jet.

We found out this week that the 3 week trip has now turned into 8+ months. I guess we should have known better. Now, the memory that is seared in my brain is Chris looking back at me and waving as he is walking through the gray steel door of the airplane hanger. He was carrying his green flight bag and a brave smile on his face. The brave smile, I am sure, was more for me than it was for him.

Bad timing and poor judgement Score: 1
My Score: 0.

But I try to be as positive as I can with these kinds of situations. This time, it bit me in the butt.

On the positive side, however, when I did get this bad news, I had a dear friend visiting who's timing could not have worked out better. She is another Navy Spouse who knows exactly how this feels and what this means. I was so grateful for her presence. Therefore, I consider the score evened out.

Now, I just try to keep a smile on my face (even if tears are streaming down my cheeks) and take one day at a time.

(The photo I attached to this blog post is irrelevant to the story but it always puts a smile on my face. It is one of Chris's favorites too. A few weeks ago, we were sitting out on the patio at the local Panera Bread and Michael was exploring his environment. He has his "trouble maker" look on his face.)


  1. Oh, I am so sorry Molly. I am crying just thinking about what you guys have to go through and getting more and more worried about Marvin starting workups once we get to Virginia Beach. I wish we were closer so I could help out- I hate being so far from our friends. If you need anything just let us know. We miss you!- Beth Ann

  2. Oh Molly I am so sorry. What a crummy way to have to say goodbye. I hope it goes by really quickly for all of you!

  3. I am so sad about this too. Mainly for you guys of course, but we too were hoping to see Chris mid-August. We wanted to get to all hang out again before he left. This is such a bummer! You are handling it way better than I would. Sea tours pretty much stink. We're here for you though. Two classes this week, b-day lunch sounds good, pool maybe, and Chad can help you with that house stuff you mentioned. I just wish we could get Chris back to you as was planned! We love ya Molls!

  4. Love you Molls! Can't wait for you to get here and give your little cutie a hug too. Love that photo also!