Monday, April 26, 2010

This pity party has ended.

There is always this mental adjustment period that I go through when Chris leaves town for an extended time period (more than 10 days). The first 5 days or so after he leaves has come to be known in my world as "Molly's Pity Party." Now that Chris is back with a fleet squadron his schedule demands that he will be out of town A LOT.

What is A LOT? We are talking 10 out of the next 11 months. I'll give you a second to let that sink in. For my fellow military spouses who read this, I know you can 100% relate. For all of my civilian friends, I don't expect you to fully understand. I did not get it myself until, back in 2004, I dropped Chris off to go on his first deployment. I drove home and walked in the garage door of our home in VA Beach and it hit me: he will not be walking back through this door with me for another 6 months.

This next year is going to be an interesting adventure. We have already done 2 deployments in the past. But this was at a time in my life when I was working full time and during the second deployment I was also in school working towards my MBA. Seeing as this is the third deployment, this should be a breeze right? I don't think so. I think they only get harder and more challenging.

The demands of raising a busy toddler on my own, with no daily reprieve at 5:30 pm or on the weekends, feels daunting. It most certainly makes me appreciate what single parents do every day, 24/7/365. I say a special prayer for all the single parents that I know.

Will we get through this? Absolutely. But it wont be easy and it won't be without tears. 3 1/2 more weeks till Daddy gets home from this month-long trip. You better believe I am counting down the days.


  1. Molly, I know EXACTLY how you feel. Being in a fleet squadron has meant a ridiculous time away to include a deployment. I cant imagine how difficult it will one day be with a little one.

    I hope it flies by for you!!!

  2. Mollly,
    wow, your an amazing woman and mom. the strength determination and faith you have to be #1 for everyone. I am cheering you on....too bad you can't personally hear my high school cheer especially for you! :) you might not be missing out...buffy

  3. Sorry Molls! Sounds rough on all of you. Looking forward to seeing you very soon!!

  4. Oh Molly-- your post brought tears to my eyes. I am counting down the days with you! Amy Thomas